My Big Girl’s Birth Story

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My beautiful Baby girl. At least she was; now she is my beautiful Big Girl. Some days I still find it hard to believe that she is seven. It still feels like yesterday those two blue lines appeared before my eyes.

She is my eldest baby, my first baby. No matter how big she gets she will always be my baby. Even if she does always say ‘mummy I’m not a baby anymore’. She is to me.

I also remember all too clearly the day she came into this world. The day my life changed forever, the day I became a mummy.

Let us begin a few days before I gave. I went to my aunt’s house. She took one look at me and said ‘Char, your lips are puffy! You’re going to have that baby in the next few days’. I just last yeh okay. Now I always had a feeling I wouldn’t go the full 40 weeks, I myself was born 4 weeks early.

However when my waters broke 3 days later I wasn’t expecting to be in labour this early.

12.15am Tuesday morning, (I was 35weeks and 5days) I coughed! Yes, I coughed and I wet myself – or so I thought. I couldn’t believe it, my bladder control had completely gone, and I had wet myself how embarrassing.

I felt quite a bit of pressure in my bottom a few minute later and still not realising my waters had broke I went to the toilet. Thinking I was constipated I was sat on the toilet for two hours before I even thought it could be labour.

I went in to wake my husband (at the time boyfriend). He was not that much help, he wasn’t sure if it was labour either and told me to wake my mum. We were living there at the time.

 

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My mum, as she does panicked. It was too early and she was worried about it. Now luckily we lived next door to a paramedic, who my parents were really good friends with. My mum sent my dad over to knock on his door at three O’clock in the morning. Bless him he came over to check me out.

He was presented with me sat on the toilet, still convinced I was just constipated. So naïve.

I travelled to hospital via ambulance with my partner, arriving at 3:45am. My parents followed closely behind.

I was already 8cm dilated. My mum and partner was in the delivery room with me. My dad was in the waiting room asleep across the chairs.

My mum, wiped my forehead for me. She was there by my side and did what she needed to do to help me, but not interfering.

 

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My husband! I was so impressed with my husband. Even though he was nervous, he didn’t show it. He held my hand as a twisted it into awkward positions. He calmed me! He spoke to me and was only focused on me, and I listened to him. He was the only voice I listened to. The midwife told me to calm down, and slow my breathing down, I didn’t listen. My husband told me to calm down, and slow my breathing, I listened. He breathed along with me, making me follow his pace. He was brilliant. I later found out that he had spent the past few months watching birthing video’s at work.

My baby girl was born at 5.03am. I only go to hold her for a few minutes. She was weighed and I guessed her weight correctly at 5lb 3oz. She was shortly after taken too the special care baby unit (SCBU) as she needed a bit of oxygen.

 

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So that was it, I was finally a mummy. I remember closing my legs quickly when giving birth, my daughter came out with a crooked nose and bruised face because of it, my mum ended up holding onto my legs.

My mum helped me shower after giving birth. I remember her saying ‘oh, isn’t she lovely?’ I immediately said ‘No, did you see her face she looks like a wrinkly bulldog’. She then agreed with me and said ‘well I didn’t want to be the one to say anything.’ It sounds awful that I thought my baby girl was ugly, however a few hours later she looked more normal and beautiful.

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We spent the next three days in hospital before coming home. I struggled in the beginning; I didn’t feel like a mum, I didn’t feel like I was bonding with her. But after a few weeks that all started to kick in and I was able to bond with my baby girl.

My beautiful baby girl that is not a baby any more.

 

 

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34 thoughts on “My Big Girl’s Birth Story

  1. This Mum's Life says:

    I love hearing other people’s birth stories!! Yours is a really interesting one-8cm and you thought it was constipation! It is really hard to tell sometimes isn’t it?! With my first, I had no warning labour was imminent, and went straight in on strong contractions every 2 minutes, so I knew it was labour. It was with my second that I wasn’t sure! I expected the same, but instead had random pains that I wasn’t sure were even labour, then like you, had loads of pressure in my bottom so got myself to the hospital where I was 6cm. I never did have regular contractions! I also looked at my eldest when he was born and thought he was ugly…! This is the first time I’ve ever admitted that…! I also had bonding issues and a lot of anxiety, but when I started to get on top of things, I started to feel a strong bond-it just wasn’t instant. Your daughter looks so gorgeous in the photos!! And I’m sure you will always say ‘my baby,’ even when she’s grown up with children of her own!!
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    • Charlotte says:

      Thank you for your comments, I’m glad I’m not alone in thinking their baby was ugly lol. I have certainly had some unusual births.

    • Charlotte says:

      I’ve never made I full term, I bet it felt never ending, poor you. Thanks for your comments and stopping by.

  2. Mummy Fever says:

    It’s funny, there seems a real theme this week on #sharewithme – lots of parents linking up about children growing up! There must be something in the air…there’s a lot of reflection going on 🙂

    My 4 were all really late – 2 had to be induced and the threat of induction got the other two moving lol. Thanks for sharing your experience.
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    • Charlotte says:

      Thank you for your comments, I love reading birth experiences. I have never gone full term, I can only imagine it’s very frustrating.

  3. Mackenzie Glanville says:

    I know what you mean, my baby girl is now 12 and next year will be a teenager and off to high school! It has gone so fast, way too fast, sometimes I wish I could shrink her back down and snuggle with her. She is almost as tall as me now, but I am pretty short lol. I love that you thought it was constipation and then you were already 8cm oh my gosh what a surprise that must have been! Thanks for sharing with #mg

    • Charlotte says:

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting Mackenzie, Yes we look back and laugh at how silly I was thinking I was constipated. I don’t like thinking about her turning into a teenager.

  4. Mudpie Fridays says:

    The thing is if you’ve not done it before it’s difficult to know and every labour is different. I sang get over how different my two were. I went into the second thinking ytxwoukd be like the first and it was no where near close. What a good neighbour! Newborns always look pretty ugly! Thank you so much for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again next week X
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    • Charlotte says:

      Yes I now realise how different they can be, with my son I new instantly I was in labour, with my third baby it was similar too my first so I was able to realise it as labour quicker that time round. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment x

    • Charlotte says:

      They were amazing, I thought he was joking at first when she said about my lips but they were indeed puffy so she must have been right?

  5. Agent Spitback says:

    Aw, what a lovely birth story. I remember my #1 being early too and I was panicking as I did not even realise that I was in labour. And all of my children will always be babies even though two of them are taller than me now. #momsterlink

  6. Liz says:

    I had a friend who had similar sounding labour instead of the textbook sounding labour so many of us expect. I went into the hospital at 7 cms, and they were cleaning the triage. They asked me to wait an hour. I declined.

  7. Trista, Donesticated Momster says:

    Awww I love hearing about birthing stories and I love the pics of her. They do grow so fast. I can’t believe I gave birth to my last and final child over 4 years ago. Motherhood is a whirlwind of emotions…thank you for sharing yours with #momsterslink … Hope to see you again tomorrow!

    • Charlotte says:

      The time just fly’s by, and I think it goes even quicker the more kids you have. It only seems like yesterday I had my youngest but she is nine months already.

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